Most people come into marriage believing it is a box full of goodies from which we extract all we need to make us happy. Marriage is an empty box. There is nothing in it. It is an opportunity to put something in, to do something for marriage.Searching the Internet for the above will reveal that it was written by J. Allan Peterson. Thank you, for the advice Mr. Allan.
Marriage was never intended to do something for anybody. People are expected to do something for marriage. If you do not put into the box more than you take out, it becomes empty. Love isn't in marriage, it is in people, and people put it into marriage. Romance, consideration, and generosity in marriage, are in people, and people put them into the marriage box. Living for each other, releases both of you to relax and work together productively to keep the box full.
Saturday, May 17, 2008
Keep the marriage box full
Baytona course ( 'baytona' is an Arabic word for 'our house' ) which covered many aspects of having a cheerful marriage. There were several pamphlets handed out that included advice on choosing your partner, selecting your core values...etc. You can visit their website for more information about the course, I highly recommend it. One of the handouts had the following excerpt.